How to Practice Self-Care (Stressed and Beyond)

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Junior year was full of many expectations about the wonderful life I would be living as a senior. While my life is wonderful, it certainly has not gotten any easier, which was a major part of the dream. I spent my fall semester working my butt off, managing Zoom classes, balancing work and work study, and wrapping up my final officer positions with a neatly tied bow. I even earned straight As 一 defying the expectation that it would be the worst semester of my academic career 一 and made the Dean’s List! Still, taking care of my physical and mental health took a backseat. 

I spent all of winter break recovering from the fall and looked forward to finally relaxing in the spring. It’s now spring 2021, and in a few months I will graduate from Coe. Midterms have past, and I’ve taken some time to reflect on my accomplishments as of today. One of which is finally, after all these years, practicing self-care. I want to pass on some knowledge that I’ve gained about the importance of self-care and some tips on how to take better care of yourself. Trust me, you do not want to wait until you’re 22.

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Understanding Stress

I don’t mean to brag, but I am unapologetically proud of myself and am grateful for the time, effort, and stress I experienced to get to where I am today. I also realize that despite the changes to my schedule and workload I am still physically, mentally, and emotionally overwhelmed. With the temperature below zero for weeks at a time, and traveling to and from work by foot, I was drained of my naturally high energy. The accumulated stress from the past four years plus the new stress of a new job and lifestyle changes quickly took their toll as well. 

For those of you who are not aware, stress can be both good and bad. Chronic stress, or prolonged stress, is the bad type of stress and doesn’t allow enough time for you to recover. For example, if you’re not financially secure or you are food insecure you are facing constant stressors that take a lot of time and resources to work through. Without time to rest, individuals with chronic stress tend to become ill more easily and more often, and suffer from burnout and exhaustion. Acute stress, or short periods of stress, is considered to be the good type of stress, because it allows time for you to recover. Having an extracurricular (sport, club, service) that you participate in can be stressful, but it takes you away from your usual, not so fun routine, and allows you to stay engaged throughout the day.  

Fun events can still be stressful, and with negative events that also create stress the two add up and can eventually lead to burnout. Wow, that’s a lot of stress! I know, but once you notice just how stressed you really are, you can take steps to remedy. Here are some to get you started:

1.Let in the Light

It doesn’t matter whether you have one large window or one smaller than a trash can, let in the light. Natural light boosts your mood, helps you wake up (and stay awake), and makes your space feel more open. When I’m feeling ill, I keep the blinds closed to reduce migraines; however, a majority of the time letting in the light makes me happier. You can see more clearly, and the strain of computer light is lessened. Natural light can help keep you focused on your work and motivated to reach your daily goals. 

2.Sweet Scents

Another way to practice self-care is by making your environment more welcoming. We spend a lot of time indoors, so changing that space to make us comfortable will do wonders for your mental health. I prefer to use an essential oil diffuser, to spread sweet tangerine and lemongrass throughout my apartment. You could also open a window to let in fresh air, or use an air freshener. If you don’t like too many smells (allergies) you could focus on cleaning your space to keep everything fresh-smelling, for example, wiping surfaces to clear away dust. 

3.Keep It Clean

Proper, good hygiene is often a game changer for many and most don’t even realize it. Take a shower (or a bubble bath), brush your hair, massage your skin, and/or wash your face. When we’re stressed we often push our physical health to the side, when we should really prioritize it; especially once you feel better. Do your laundry, clear away trash, and/or catch up on your usual cleaning routine. This can help you feel productive and set other self-care activities in motion.

4.Take in the Sights

The weather has improved substantially. Yes, it keeps snowing, but it’ll be 50 degrees again soon. Take a stroll during the day, or walk slower on your way to and from classes. The Alumni Garden is open every day now, a little bit of nature does wonders for your health. Watching hummingbirds fly by, or hopping from stone to stone can help you feel more engaged with your body. This is most beneficial for people who struggle to feel grounded in the present moment. 

5.Sit Down and Write

Once a day where you can afford to take it easy, sit down in a comfortable spot and write. Write about your hopes and dreams, your plans for the week, or even your monthly budget. Writing can help you remain present instead of worrying about everything else you have to worry about. I enjoy writing and find that when I make time to write I feel much more relaxed and prepared to complete other tasks. If writing isn’t your style, you can always sing your favorite songs, crochet, or anything else that allows you to effortlessly focus on one moment. 

Fun fact, on Tuesday, March 23 we have our second “academic break day” of the term. This could be the day you start your new self-care journey! Below are some helpful sources and COVID resources as you should keep COVID guidelines in mind when planning your activities.

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Helpful Sources
Understanding Good Stress vs Bad Stress: https://med.stanford.edu/news/all-news/2012/12/good-stress-bad-stress.html 
Prevent Burnout:
https://www.helpguide.org/articles/stress/burnout-prevention-and-recovery.htm#:~:text=Burnout%20is%20a%20state%20of,unable%20to%20meet%20constant%20demands.
Natural Light Increases Productivity:
https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/study-natural-light-is-the-best-medicine-for-the-office-300590905.html 

Covid Resources
Things to Know about COVID-19: 
https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/your-health/need-to-know.html
CDC Tips on How to Care for Yourself During the Pandemic:
https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/stress-coping/care-for-yourself.html
State of Iowa Agency Guidance:
https://coronavirus.iowa.gov/pages/guidance
City of Cedar Rapids, IA COVID-19 Information:
https://www.cedar-rapids.org/alert_detail/coronavirus_(covid-19).php

Great Expectations

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 By Arabella Chamberlain

Just about a year into a global pandemic and where are we? As the weather warms, we seek the solace of sun and warmth, companionship from friends six feet away, and faces covered. But inherently, our lives are different than they were a year ago - even a few months ago.

As the world keeps turning, life has started to return to normal. Well, not really normal, more like a facsimile of the lives we once lived, filled with masks and vaccines. And where does that leave us?

We expected this to be over sooner. We expected things to be the same as they always were eventually. But they won't be.

That's okay.

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As our personal expectations of normalcy have waned, I found this to not be true in my experiences with academia. Professors were extremely generous our first semester online, as with the transitions to hybrid the second. But this semester, we find ourselves on the precipice of what life was like a year ago. Professors are starting to expect what they expected a year ago in class - attendance in-person, engagement, turning in assignments on time - and rightfully so. We're moving on. And strangely, things many of us never struggled with before have become a challenge to people everywhere. Expectations we used to accomplish without a second thought are now insurmountable when we can barely pull ourselves from bed.

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It's been a long time since we have seen professors face to face (or mask to mask), been able to go to office hours, not had to deal with buffering Zoom connections. It's truly a privilege to be where we are, and perhaps we need to remind ourselves of that next time we want to rag on a professor for pushing us a little harder than we think we can handle. You'd be surprised how much you've already endured and walked away from - maybe with a little wear-and-tear, but you're stronger for it.

I wish I could tell you all the answers to thriving in a time like this, but I don't think anyone has those answers. This is just a reminder that you've already accomplished so much, and even when this semester tries to kick your butt, know that you can kick right back. I know what it feels like when everyone around you has great expectations. But be kind to yourself. You may not always put forth your best work. You might have rough times. It's alright. Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.

Remember to take a deep breath.

And get back up again.

Because you will not let anything stop you from succeeding.

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Overcoming Writer's Block

No matter what your major is, at some point, you will be completing writing assignments. At this point in the semester, I'm sure all of you have done this. Sometimes there's a dreaded spot in the writing process where we get stuck. What exactly is writer's block? It can be defined as "an overwhelming  feeling of being stuck in the writing process without the ability to move forward and write anything new" (MasterClass). It's especially frustrating when you've got a close deadline, but nothing is coming to your head. Therefore, this post is aimed at combating that block by going through different scenarios where writer's block may occur and offering some strategies to overcome it. 

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Struggling to get started?

• Brainstorm! If it's creative writing or an assignment where you have pretty much free reign on the topic, spend some time just brainstorming topic ideas that interest you. Getting all your ideas out is a great starting place. You could also discuss your ideas with another classmate or your professor during office hours.
• Try some invention strategies:
• Ask yourself what your purpose is for writing about the subject.
• Ask yourself how you're going to achieve this purpose.
• Summarize your whole idea and explain it to someone else in a few sentences.
• If the paper involves research, start by taking notes on details that stand out to you, things you find interesting/important, or on places where you disagree with the claim presented in the research.
• Write down all the main ideas you would like to get across in your paper; this can be converted into an outline.

Moving beyond the outline:

When you can't seem to form a solid introduction or thesis, start in the middle! The writing process is different for everyone, and it doesn't have to be linear. Personally, I hardly ever finalize my introduction first. I find that after writing my body paragraphs in an essay, I discover a more solid understanding of my main point. Then, I go back and revise my thesis and introduction. Overall, don't worry about following a specific process. You can use your outline as a guideline, but if you're stuck on a certain part of a paper, make a note to come back to it later and move on for now. Otherwise, you're going to feel like you're making no progress, and that just furthers the stress of writer's block.

You've been assigned a topic you dislike or one that bores you:

• Meet with your professor to discuss how much control you have over the assignment's topic
• Find ways to personalize your topic. Ask yourself questions such as: What knowledge can I gain from writing about this topic? How can it help me? What skills will I be able to practice? Who would benefit from reading my finished product? How can I relate to this topic?

Don't understand the assignment?

• Reread the instructions carefully and make a list of questions that you are confused about.
• Consult your professor about these specific questions for clarification.
• You could also talk to another classmate or a tutor (like visiting the writing center!).

You're worried about writing "badly" on the first draft:

A first draft doesn't have to be perfect, so try not to worry about the small details. It's hard to get into this mindset, but try your best to just write and see where your ideas take you. Don't worry too much about grammar or sentence structure; you can always go back and revise for the more technical stuff later. You can also leave notes to yourself on parts you want to work on later. Check out this video for more tips on this scenario!

Too stressed and overwhelmed to write anymore?

• Take a break! This could be something as simple as taking a short walk outside. Anything that gives your brain a break from the assignment is really important to refresh and lower your stress levels. Even just a 10 to 20 minute break can give you enough motivation to write a little more.
• Break up your assignment into manageable chunks/set a schedule to work on it. For example, you could plan to write without interruption for 30 minutes each day.
• Ask for help! Coe offers many resources for academic support. Consider visiting the writing center! They can help at any stage of the writing process. You can make an appointment with a specific writing center consultant at this link.

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Other quick tips:

• Do something fun or creative on your writing break such as drawing a picture or coloring.
• Freewrite! Set a timer and spend some time just writing whatever pops into your head. Ignore grammar. Ignore writing imperfections. Just get any and all ideas out, writing freely.
• Exercise, meditation, and yoga! These are all great ways to stimulate your brain to help you get through that block in your writing.
• If background noise or the environment you're in is distracting you, find a place to write that doesn't have those distractions such as in the library. You could also just try writing from a different spot in general. Just getting up and moving to a different place can have an impact on your ideas.

Sources:

“What Is Writer’s Block? How to Overcome Writer’s Block With Step-by-Step Guide and Writing Exercises.”

https://www.masterclass.com/articles/what-is-writers-block-how-to-overcome-writers-block-with-step-by-step-guide-and-writing-exercises#quiz-0

“Symptoms and Cures for Writer's Block”

https://owl.purdue.edu/owl/general_writing/the_writing_process/writers_block/index.html

“7 Ways to Overcome Writer’s Block”

https://www.writersdigest.com/whats-new/7-ways-to-overcome-writers-block

How Personality Type Can Affect Learning Style

Have you ever heard of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator? It’s a self-report quiz aimed at assigning personality type according to four categories. It does this by examining how people perceive the world and make decisions based on their answers.

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What are the four categories? 

1. Extroversion vs. Introversion (E v. I)

I’m sure many of you have heard of these before and probably have a good idea about which side you lean towards. But what exactly do they mean? An introvert gains energy and motivation by focusing inward. They prefer to think things through on their own and become drained when working with large groups and meeting lots of people. This doesn’t mean introverts don’t like spending time with people; they just need to have more breaks to spend time alone. An extrovert gains energy by focusing outward. They learn and process information by talking with others and become energized when working with lots of people. As with any of these categories, it isn’t a complete either/or. It’s a scale, and you may be somewhere in the middle. 

2. Sensing vs. Intuitive (S v. N)

Sensors are concrete thinkers. They focus on facts, events, and details and enjoy practical, hands on work. They don’t like theories, ideas, and concepts, relying on life experience instead. In contrast, intuitive people like theories, ideas, and concepts and enjoy looking for meaning behind things. As abstract, creative thinkers, they have low tolerance for routine work and are focused on the “big picture.”

3. Thinking vs. Feeling (T v. F)

Thinkers value logic and reason objectively when making decisions. They are task-oriented, tend to be more competitive than cooperative, and prefer to separate emotions from work. On the other hand, feelers make decisions based more on emotions. They value relationships and compassion, emphasize personal connection and tend to seek supportive work and academic environments.

4. Judgers vs. Perceivers (J v. P)

These are two different self-management styles. Judgers are very organized and structured. They are decisive and prefer to plan ahead. Contrary, perceivers like to leave things open ended and wait before making a decision. They embrace spontaneity and love freedom and flexibility. 

How can these personality types affect your learning style preferences?

Understanding your learning style preferences can help you acquire knowledge and study more effectively. As seen in the descriptions of the four categories, there are some general preferences, but they may differ between the combinations of the categories.

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The Sixteen Types:

1. ESTJ - Their interest in learning a topic is motivated by solving problems. They are analytical and driven to gain practical experience to apply what they learn.
2. ISTJ - They do best through hands-on work and repetition and prefer structured academic environments with a steady routine.
3. ENTJ - They also like structured and competitive learning environments but not a rigid routine. They prefer having overall structure where they can still take an independent path and enjoy exploring abstract ideas along the way.
4. INTJ - They make excellent independent learners and typically enjoy studying theoretical concepts. They do better with memorizing information by creating connections, analogies, or acronyms rather than just repetition.
5. ESTP - They thrive in competitive environments with contests and rewards. Learning best through hands-on experience with logical, practical instructions, they need breaks from sitting at a computer to be active.
6. ISTP - They also like hands-on work and learn better through real-life examples. Being very independent, they prefer to study and do projects on their own. They also prefer flexibility over a highly structured academic environment.
7. ENTP - They prefer learning environments where they can explore and have freedom to ask questions and discuss concepts. Therefore, they tend to struggle more with highly structured learning that revolves around lectures.
8. INTP - Their interest in learning a topic is usually driven by a desire to figure out complex problems or theorize. They excel at noticing flaws in logic and are good at asking engaging questions. In addition, they prefer analyzing things on their own rather than group work.
9. ESFJ - Learning best by working with others, they thrive in learning environments where structured collaboration is encouraged. They like real-life examples and hands-on work with opportunities to engage with others.
10. ISFJ - They appreciate a highly structured learning environment with clear steps, expectations, and instructions. They also absorb details fast and do well with repetition and memorization tasks.
11. ENFJ - Common academic interests for them surround solving people-related issues. They prefer a positive, collaborative environment making them good facilitators in group work. Brainstorming ideas and thoughts out loud with others helps when studying.
12. INFJ - They enjoy structure with some flexibility in a learning environment. Analogies or acronyms typically work better than rote memorization, and they like plenty of alone time to process information before discussing their ideas with others.
13. ESFP - Their interest in learning a topic is typically driven by their enjoyment and how using the information could help or bring joy to others. They also learn well interacting with people and doing hands-on work such as "on the job" training.
14. ISFP - They are highly independent learners who enjoy flexibility to explore and try different approaches. They appreciate hands-on learning with experimentation.
15. ENFP - They appreciate opportunities to brainstorm and discuss ideas with the teacher and other students, and they like hearing and learning about different perspectives. It's also helpful for them to get personal feedback on their work.
16. INFP - They enjoy a collaborative learning environment as long as they have had enough time to get to know the other students a bit. However, they're still drawn to privately processing information, and they typically enjoy work that allows them to be creative.

Those are just brief introductions. If you want to learn more about your personality type's preferred learning style, check out this website.

Take the test!

https://www.16personalities.com/personality-types

Or go to Coe's C3 webpage and use the TypeFocus assessment tool. This test uses components of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator as well as the Strong Interest Inventory (career interest assessment).

Sources:

“The Learning Styles of Every Myers-Briggs® Personality Type”

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/2018/01/12/learning-styles-every-myers-briggs-personality-type/

The Myers & Briggs Foundation

https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/

"Learning Styles of the 16 Personality Types"

http://www.humanmetrics.com/personality/learning-styles

 

Learning Commons Resources- Requesting a Tutor, SI, RAS, and more

 

Your go-to space for info on all of the educational assistance programs at Coe!

Here is some go-to information on how to request a tutor, how to become a tutor, what SI sessions are and where to find them, what is and how to RAS, and what you can do with the writing and speak out centers.

Requesting a Tutor

Tutoring is available to Coe students at no charge and any student may request a tutor for any class. Tutors are assigned through paired matches and/or through tutee self-scheduling on WCOnline, and are available on a first-come, first served basis. All tutoring is contingent on tutor availability. 

 

The earlier a student seeks tutoring support, the more likely it is that the tutoring will have an impact on learning and performance, and the more likely it is that a tutor will be available. Tutoring may be an appropriate academic support for you when you are attending class regularly, and:

 

• You are having difficulty keeping up with the pace of the professor
• You feel confused after class when reviewing your notes
• You are consistently unable to figure out how to complete out of class assignments
• You are experiencing feelings of anxiety or frustration related to the class
• You find yourself repeatedly putting off preparing for class

 

Spring 2021 Tutor Request Form

Scheduling with your tutor

 

Becoming a Tutor

Peer tutors are available to help students in most academic courses. Tutors must have successfully completed the tutored course, received faculty approval, and participated in tutor orientation. Tutors are paid, but there is no charge to students for tutoring services. Tutors have control over their schedules, and appointments may be scheduled during the day, in the evenings and on weekends, and take place online unless requested by you and accepted by the tutor.

 

Coe needs you! Tutors are needed for all subjects, particularly in math, science, and business courses. Earn money while sharing your knowledge and honing your interpersonal skills. You do NOT need to qualify for work-study to be a paid tutor. Tutor hiring will take place prior to and within the first couple of weeks of each new term. Click below to submit your application to become a tutor.

Become a tutor!

         

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SI (Supplemental Instruction)

Did you know that SI is going digital this year? Now you can get information and help from any of the SI leaders on campus from the comfort of your study space on Discord.

 

This discord is specific for those students who are in classes that have SI sessions. You can reach out to your SI Leader or Shanna Pikora, the program coordinator, at spikora@coe.edu and ask questions about your classes/SI in general.

 

This semester, there are SI sessions for OE Biology, Genetics, general Chem 1&2, Basic Physics, general physics, social criminal justice, intro psychology, and biopsychology.

If you haven’t checked out your Supplemental Moodle Page yet, go take a look!

Each course that has SI Sessions has a Supplemental Moodle Page -- run by your SI Leaders. You can find SI information, Zoom links, materials, and so much more on these pages! Be sure to check it out!

If you don't see the Supplemental Moodle Page on your Moodle Dashboard, be sure to email your SI Leader right away!

 

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RAS form

Are your classes making you crazy? Maybe you aren’t sure exactly what to do when you sit down to study, or you aren’t managing your time well and things aren’t getting done. Maybe you’ve missed some classes and you aren’t sure what to do about it. Let the Learning Commons connect you to the support you need! Make a request for academic support by clicking here.

 

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Writing center

With sixty peer consultants from just about every major on campus, we are an eclectic, creative and energetic group, ready to assist with writing projects of all kinds.

 

Our goal is to engage our community in conversations about writing; to that end, we not only help students with a particular writing assignment, but we strive to help them become more effective and confident writers.

 

We are located in Stewart Memorial Library, as part of the Learning Commons, and we offer conversations about any kind of writing at any stage of the writing process. Whether you need a sounding board, feedback or coaching, we are here for you.

 

No appointment is necessary to make use of this free service, but if you want to work with a particular consultant, or want a conference during our peak hours (mid-afternoon through mid-evening), you can sign up for a conference through our online scheduler or call the Writing Center at 319.399.8743 to set up an appointment.

Coe Writing Center Hours:

Monday-Thursday: 8:00 AM - Midnight

Friday: 8:00 AM - 5:00 PM

Saturday: Closed

Sunday: 11:00 AM - Midnight

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Speak out Consultants

We offer individual consultations (walk-in, or by appointment), classroom workshops and campus events aimed at developing speaking skills within a variety of contexts — public presentations, ceremonial speeches, classroom discussions, interpersonal conversations, group meetings, interviews, etc. Our consultants educate students on how to communicate ideas persuasively and empower them to use their voice to succeed in their classrooms, communities and careers.

 

Faculty and staff also use the center and participate in teaching and learning workshops that address how to integrate oral communication into any classroom.

 

Services include:

• Consulting students on individual/group presentations, including brainstorming, outlining and delivering. 
• Offering feedback on presentation rehearsals.
• Conducting workshops and delivering presentations on various oral communication topics to classes and groups.
• Assisting all students in oral communication- discussions, conversation, presentations, etc.
• Organizing and hosting oral communication related events.

 

SpeakOut Consultants are part of a larger group of peer education support available through the Learning Commons. Stop by the peer-to-peer academic support space to receive academic support, knowledge and skills from experienced students. Available most hours the library is open on the main floor of the library, or virtually via Discord.

Spring 2021 SpeakOut drop in schedule (also available by appointment outside of these hours):

Sunday: 7:00-9:00 PM (virtual)

Monday: 5:00-7:00 PM (Library), 7:00-11:00 PM (virtual)

Tuesday: 5:00-7:00 PM (Library), 7:00-9:00 PM (virtual)

Wednesday: 5:00-7:00 PM (Library), 7:00-9:00 PM (Virtual)

Thursday: 5:00-7:00 PM (Library), 7:00-9:00 PM (virtual)

SpeakOut Consultants are available by appointment by contacting:

speakout@coe.edu or filling out a request here.

Hot Tips to Stay Motivated

 

1. Try to get things done before your already packed day

Space out your tasks so that they don’t all pile up on one day where everything is due tomorrow. Even tackling some of those smaller tasks will make your busy day way easier.

2. Treat Yourself

If you are struggling to get motivated, plan a reward for yourself after the completion of each task. This could be a tv show episode, 15 minutes on Tik Tok, food, or anything else that you want to do that you are using to procrastinate right now.

3. Prioritize your tasks

When you are feeling overwhelmed by a mountain of work, take some time to prioritize what is most important to get done right away. Move anything throughout the week that can be, and when you can, put easier tasks at the beginning of the list so that you can quickly start to get things done and feel accomplished.

4. Have a study buddy

Can’t seem to motivate by yourself? Grab a friend or classmate that isn’t too distracting to you and get to work! You’ll find that breaks will be built in while you’re chatting and you can set goals together to get a certain amount of work done.

5. Save or post a few motivational quotes or videos to come back to

Add some quotes you find inspiring to your workspace, or a playlist to come back to when you are feeling unmotivated. This could also take the form of posting your goals so you are constantly reminded why you are doing this.

6. Check Off/Track Your Progress

Form a to-do list so that you can get the satisfaction of crossing things off and keep track of your progress!

7. Layout your goals and the why behind them

What are your goals? Why are you doing all of this hard work in college? Write down what your goals are and why they are your goals. It’s easy to get off track when we forget why we are doing something.

8. Break it down into smaller achievable tasks

If a task or project feels too overwhelming or impossible, break it down into smaller tasks. Sometimes this includes obvious steps, but laying it all out makes a larger project seem more manageable.

9. Make it a friendly competition

Make it a competition with your friends or study partners to get the most done, or to get the best grade. For those who are naturally competitive, this can act as the ultimate motivator. Just remember to celebrate regardless of the results.

10.  Reframe - think positive

Practice reframing your mindset when you are stressed out. Instead of saying “This is too much I can’t get it done”, say “I have a lot to get done today but I’m confident I will get it done.” When we make the choice to think of everything as being terrible it will be, but if we choose to think positively about things, not only will it seem much easier but it probably actually will be.

Financial Stability as a Form of Self-Love (Part 2)

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“I want freedom and stability... a very big life made up of the very small things.”

~ Meg Fee, 

Places I Stopped on the Way Home: A Memoir of Chaos and Grace

I came to college with the understanding that when I turned 18 I became an adult, and have spent the past four years learning how to act like one. I’ve made substantial progress, going from wasting the precious money I earned and saved (while in high school) to earning back those savings, and taking action (in the present) on the behalf of my future expenses. 

Last February I wrote my first self-love post, focusing on the importance of prioritizing one’s financial goals as a form of self-love. I wrote:  “I learned that accepting who you are in the present, who you were in the past, and understanding that you have power over who you are in the future is my definition of self-love”. The heart of the matter is that our finances play a much larger role in how we function in society than FAR too many people are willing to admit. As adults we have to, at the very least, acknowledge where we stand. Only then can we decide where we want to be, and figure out how to get there. 

For reference, my definition of financial stability is “non-fluctuating money”. When your bank account hops from a negative balance, to all of your monthly earnings, to zero it’s obvious why you’d be stressed. Having to worry about whether or not you can afford college, textbooks, supplies, food, and anything else is stressful. However, if the balance remains steady despite your income and expenses, that stress is alleviated, and you’re able to focus on the things that make you happy.

 I can’t put into words the feeling of satisfaction I have, the power I feel when I take control of my destiny by not being afraid of spending my hard-earned money on necessities. There are so many people out there who have far more to worry about than I, so I try to remain humble and recognize where I stand. There are also people who have always been better off than I’ve ever been or ever will be, and I have to accept that my mission in life is NOT to keep up with the Joneses, or Kardashians, or anyone else! I look back to where I used to be, and sometimes I was better off before. Still, I’m proud of myself and will continue this journey, trying my best whenever I am able. 

As students, our academics and extracurriculars take priority, however we do not exist in a vacuum, and the “Coe bubble” will pop ー if it hasn’t already. This is why it’s best to get comfortable with your finances while you have the cushioning of not paying for your own utilities. 

Let’s do an activity: 

• Go to my.coe.edu and log in. 
• Select the “Student” tab
• Click the link for “Student Accounts Information”
• Select “Course and Fee Statement”
• Select “Generate my Course and Fee Statement”
• Select “View my Course and Fee Statement”

Next, look through your Course and Fee Statement. It doesn’t matter whether you paid all, or none, of your tuition and fees. What matters is that you see how much your education is worth and learn to get comfortable with those numbers. I understand that money can be scary to many people, so alleviate that anxiety through exposure. The more you avoid what you fear, the scarier it will become. 

You may feel nervous looking at those thousands of dollars attending this college cost, or you may feel excited because you’ve been waiting to finally have adult responsibilities. Either way, it’s important that you accept your current feelings towards your finances, so you know where you’re starting from. 

There will be times when you are in a good place, and that feeling of contentment will come and leave you encouraged to reach it once again. 

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